Thoughts about Thoughts

Those who believe they can do something
and those who believe they can't
are both right.
- Henry Ford

Your thoughts create your reality.  Be careful how you speak to yourself anytime you do something you may not be sure about.  Everyone who knows me always hears me saying, "Don't put that out in the universe" anytime someone says something negative.  My husband will correct himself before I will now.  (And likewise when I'm on the pity pot.)

Start paying attention to your thoughts.  You have anywhere between 60,000 and 90,000 of them a day.  The vast majority of them are saying the same thing over and over again.  What do you want it to be?  That you suck and will never amount to anything?  Or that you're the most awesome person ever and can do anything you set your mind to?

It's your choice.


Choose wisely.

love and light, kelly

Most Powerful Cover Ever

When I first saw this cover, chills went up and down my body.  Tears filled up my eyes.  Each one of these ladies deserves a standing ovation for their bravery and honesty.  To come out and tell their story about surviving rape and sexual assault after years of feeling shame must come with a feeling of such relief that I can only imagine.

Reading through their stories though, it was sad to see that they did not feel comfortable coming forward sooner due to fear.  Fear of not being believed.  Fear of not being taken seriously.  Fear of the "power" their rapist had in the world.

It's the same old story told time and time again.

Ladies and gentlemen, this has got to change.

I wish I had the answers, but I don't.

I want to live in a world where women can wear what they want, without having to worry about "enticing a man to where he can't control himself".

I want to live in a world where a woman doesn't have to worry about guarding her drink in a bar to prevent someone from drugging it.

I want to live in a world where women feel safe walking by themselves at night, not in fear when a man begins to walk behind them.

I do believe we need to start with our young men coming up in the world.  I have a seven year old boy.  You better believe he is being taught that women are just as worthy as men.  He will treat women with respect and kindness.  And I will beat his butt if I ever hear of him treating a girl like crap.  (Not literally.  Maybe.  Lol)

If you are ever a victim of rape or sexual assault, please tell someone.  It's much too big to keep to yourself.  Even if you don't press charges, please get help for the mental and emotional changes you will go through.  It is a very serious problem.  If you press charges, thank you for being one of the brave.  Very few do press charges.  Sad to say that in this society, it's easy to see why.  The victim is often put on trial.  We need more women to change that.

Thank you for listening to me.

love and light, kelly

Who You Gonna Serve?

“Whatever is true is eternal, and cannot change or be changed. Spirit is therefore unalterable because it is already perfect, but the mind can elect what it chooses to serve. The only limit put on its choice is that it cannot serve two masters.”  (Course of Miracles)

“No one can serve two masters, for either he

will hate the one and love the other; or else

he will be devoted to one and despise the

other. You can’t serve both God and Mammon."  (Matthew 6:24)

The other night when I was meditating, the saying about not being able to serve two masters came to me.  There are so many ways to interpret this.  The Bible's meaning is you can't serve God and money or false idols at the same time.  The Course breaks it down to where you can't serve love or fear at the same time.  

This concept relates to recovery perfectly!  Which master are you going to serve?  The one who belittles you every chance it gets?  Or the one who tries to lift you up in spirit?  You can't do both.  Recovery isn't about keeping one foot in the disease, and one foot in recovery.  You can't.  You have to choose.  There are two separate masters fighting for your attention.  Your disease is a hell of a lot louder though.  Recovery is quieter.  But it's peaceful.  It feels nicer.  It's not easier though.  But trust that in the long run, you will be better off.  You will be.  I promise.  

love and light, kelly  

                                                                                         

Who You Gonna Serve?

“Whatever is true is eternal, and cannot change or be changed. Spirit is therefore unalterable because it is already perfect, but the mind can elect what it chooses to serve. The only limit put on its choice is that it cannot serve two masters.”  (Course of Miracles)

“No one can serve two masters, for either he

will hate the one and love the other; or else

he will be devoted to one and despise the

other. You can’t serve both God and Mammon."  (Matthew 6:24)

The other night when I was meditating, the saying about not being able to serve two masters came to me.  There are so many ways to interpret this.  The Bible's meaning is you can't serve God and money or false idols at the same time.  The Course breaks it down to where you can't serve love or fear at the same time.  

This concept relates to recovery perfectly!  Which master are you going to serve?  The one who belittles you every chance it gets?  Or the one who tries to lift you up in spirit?  You can't do both.  Recovery isn't about keeping one foot in the disease, and one foot in recovery.  You can't.  You have to choose.  There are two separate masters fighting for your attention.  Your disease is a hell of a lot louder though.  Recovery is quieter.  But it's peaceful.  It feels nicer.  It's not easier though.  But trust that in the long run, you will be better off.  You will be.  I promise.  

love and light, kelly  

                                                                                         

Believe

For the last few weeks, this quote has been stalking me.  Everywhere I looked, there it was.  I saw it over and over on Pinterest.  A few people I knew posted it on Facebook.  I knew I had to share it.

I love this quote because it applies to everything, not just recovery.  You can use it as an affirmation for your career, your relationships, your financial health, anything.  It covers it all.

But for recovery to work, you do have to have belief in yourself first and foremost.  Believe you deserve it and are worth it.  If you don't have this basic belief, recovery will most likely fail.  I did not have this belief when I began my recovery.  What got me over the hump to true believing, was good old "fake it until you make it."  Act as if you believe and soon you won't be acting at all.  I know it sounds silly, but it works.  Trust me.

Once you believe you deserve recovery, then comes the belief that you can do it.  This is the most important belief.  Tell yourself over and over that you can do it.  Become the little engine that could.  Have it become your own personal mantra.  Whatever it takes to drill it into your head, do it.

Because you can.

love and light, kelly

Believe

For the last few weeks, this quote has been stalking me.  Everywhere I looked, there it was.  I saw it over and over on Pinterest.  A few people I knew posted it on Facebook.  I knew I had to share it.

I love this quote because it applies to everything, not just recovery.  You can use it as an affirmation for your career, your relationships, your financial health, anything.  It covers it all.

But for recovery to work, you do have to have belief in yourself first and foremost.  Believe you deserve it and are worth it.  If you don't have this basic belief, recovery will most likely fail.  I did not have this belief when I began my recovery.  What got me over the hump to true believing, was good old "fake it until you make it."  Act as if you believe and soon you won't be acting at all.  I know it sounds silly, but it works.  Trust me.

Once you believe you deserve recovery, then comes the belief that you can do it.  This is the most important belief.  Tell yourself over and over that you can do it.  Become the little engine that could.  Have it become your own personal mantra.  Whatever it takes to drill it into your head, do it.

Because you can.

love and light, kelly

Bye Bye Past

Isn't the past kind?  It's always over.  Byron Katie

Can I get an Amen?  I saw this quote today and immediately loved it.  Isn't the past kind?  It's always over.

I for one used to live in the past.  I would rehash all my mistakes over and over in my head.  I should have done this or I wish this had happened instead.  On and on.  Beating myself up over things that did not matter anymore.  That held no meaning in the present.

If you are doing this, I have one thing to say:  STOP!!!

You are robbing yourself of peace.  The past is in the past.  There is nothing you can do to change it. It's over and done with.

Forgive yourself of any wrongdoing you may have done in the past that is still upsetting you.  Forgive yourself of any of the feelings that come up with that.  Anger, regret, bitterness, all of the negatives.  Get it out and be done with it.

If there is someone that you have hurt and you are able to, ask for their forgiveness.  If they are able to forgive, great.  If not, that is their issue they need to handle.  Remember that.  You did your part.

We can not let the past have this hold on us any longer.  Leave it there.  In the past.  Learn from it.  Grow from it.  And then get the hell away from it!

I'm going to leave you with one more quote.  It's paraphrasing a Buddhist quote.  "If you have one foot in the past, one foot in the future, then you are pissing on the present."

love and light, kelly